New Year, New Intentions

Updated: Dec 12, 2018

There's something excited about newness, isn't there? I'm in the process of moving The Counseling Palette to a new office space starting in 2019, and I'm suddenly full of new ideas for what I can do with a different space. I could have done all of the same things in my old space, of course, but there's something energizing because I'll have a new place.

That's part of why we are all temporarily motivated by New Year's Resolutions. Humans crave both familiarity and variety. You might say familiarity helps us sleep at night, and variety helps us get up in the mornings.

You might say familiarity helps us sleep at night, and variety helps us get up in the mornings.

This excitement with newness is part of why traditional New Year's Resolutions don't always work (or rarely ever work). We have great hopes and expectations but we get caught up in our daily routines and challenges, and slowly the motivation and excitement wears off. For many of my new clients, trauma, anxiety and PTSD (post-traumatic stress) can make this all the more difficult.

Instead, it can be helpful to focus not on New Year's resolutions, or even goals, but on our intentions. This involves identifying not necessarily what we want to accomplish, but on how we want to feel and experience life. Let's say you believe your problems will be solved if you got a promotion at work. What you really want may not be that promotion, but what feeling or need you hope that position will bring or fill (it might be excitement, security, or feeling worthy). Whether you get the promotion or not, you can still get the feeling you're hoping for in other ways (with a new project, building your own self-esteem, validation from a friend, or challenging yourself with a new class or hobby). In fact, getting that feeling in other ways may even turn out better than what you thought you wanted.

I'm excited to invite you to a special event in Columbia, Mo., which I'll be hosting with Aspire Counseling. We will focus not on New Year's Resolutions, but on setting New Year's intentions for 2019. We'll focus not on surface-level goals, but on deeper intentions. You can expect to:

  • Identify what you really want and what would make you happier on a deeper level

  • Infuse energy into dreams that may have become stagnant, or maybe even identify dreams you didn't realize you had

  • Create a vision wheel that identifies areas of intention and happiness in your life

  • Develop a ritual to help you focus on your intentions and update them throughout the year

If you'd like to reserve your spot for the workshop on January 19 in Columbia, Mo., then text or call by the Monday before (Jan. 14) at 573/291-7315. The cost is $175 including supplies.

If you'd like to learn more about our co-sponsor and the location of the event at Aspire Counseling, read a recent blog post I wrote over there at

The Counseling Palette offers trauma, anxiety and PTSD therapy.

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